Learning Patience, Saving Grace!

We are all human, we all make mistakes, the way we learn to never make those mistakes again is by finding what it is that made you make that mistake and changing it. This week I have done a lot of soul searching, I have been forced to ask myself what I need to change about myself in order to prosper. I am happy to say that this soul searching has paid off, and now I can share what I learned, so that everyone can benefit.

Throughout my journey I have learned that I am in desperate need of patience. My business makes money through social media, so I have become adapt to quick responses. Adapt to always being connected. I have found that many of us lack patience when it comes to waiting for something, especially the younger generations since they are literally living inside their media outlets, living inside 3 minute or less responses. Well let me just tell you all out there, this is not the real world. In the real world we have to wait for things. The saying, "patience is a virtue" should not be taken lightly. It really is a virtue, and a trait that can be learned.

 Take my boyfriend for example, he is one of the most patient men I know, and because of him I have learned that I desperately need to acquire this trait in order to be an overall better, more well rounded, happier person, also a more successful entrepreneur. So how is it one acquires patience? Here are a few things that I do daily now to become a more patient person.

1.) YOGA 

Although I haven't been able to make it to a class this week, I have been doing it at home, and wow! I highly recommend it. It not only takes your mind away from what you are anxious for, but it feels great, and when you feel great you do great things! 

2.) PRAY

I am not here to argue religious beliefs, if you pray to YHWH or if you don't, just pray. Pray to the stars if you must. However, release those words into the universe, literally speak them, sit there and speak great blessings upon yourself, upon others. This week I have done nothing but pray. I have prayed for myself, my boyfriend, my family. I am a huge believer that what you vocalize, and put out there, finds a way to manifest itself. Have you ever heard the saying, "be careful what you wish for, because you just might get it?" This is the same concept, and if feels good to release those thoughts built up in your mind. 

3.) DO SOMETHING

Feeling anxious? Do something! Do you enjoy crafts? Take up a project. I was feeling very impatient this week, so I decided to get up and get out.  I went to tan, I grabbed a bite to eat with a friend, I went to a group meeting, I got ice cream, and I started working on a dreamcatcher mobile for my friends expecting baby! It not only helps pass the time, but it gets your mind off what you are waiting for. If you act out upon your lack of patience, you will soon regret a thousand of your words and actions. So be patient with life and leave forth no regrets in the future. 

4.) TRUST

Trust that everything will turn out fine. Ask yourself if what is getting you anxious will be important one day, one week, one month, one year from now. I am a very spiritual person, I put my trust in the hands of YHWH knowing that all things work out for the better will. Trusting in knowing that you will overcome, leads to great patience! 

                                                                        5.) CHANGE 

Now here is the hardest yet most rewarding part. Change is necessary at this point, you must learn to wake up everyday and practice being patient. If you do not make a constant attempt to change, to learn from your mistakes, or take daily strides at changing for the better then you will always fall right back into your old ways. Your relationships will continue to fall apart, your friends will continue to come in and out of your life, and you will constantly be waiting. 

I have learned that in order to have a successful relationship, career, family life, anything, we must learn how to be patient, learn from our mistakes, change for the better, and always keep positive in a bad situation. Forgiveness, love, trust, and many other things go along the same path, but I want to keep this short and sweet. There are also many other things that you can do to help yourself in becoming more patient, but I wanted to outline the main things I did that helped me 100%. You must step back and ask yourself, "Is this worth changing for? Has my little patience caused me to loose relationships, money, business, happiness?" If the answer is yes, then get out there and make the change you so desperately need, and be happy! Be truly happy! 

Believe It Or Not

Today I was talking with a fellow artist and he asked me, "Do you still believe in true love? Do you believe in those fairy tales?" I sat back and thought about this question. All of our lives we are told to fall in love, get married, live long, prosper, and then die having parted the world in the unity of a fulfilling marriage. Till death do us part, right? Having been through the pain of heartbreak plenty of times, I said, "I believe in true love because I have been through true pain, and one cannot exist without the other." We all go through an emotional battle within our own lives, people kill for love, die for love, fight for love. The need to be loved overpowers all obstacles. It is the best and the worst of emotions. Do I believe there is someone out there for everyone? Yes! I believe there are multiple people out there for us, it is not in finding them that is the problem, the problem lies within finding ourselves.

Two years ago I left a relationship in the middle of the night. I left because there was no more love, had I loved? Yes, but that love was gone and we were destroying each other over it. I was broken after that relationship, I thought I could never love again, never be loved again. That feeling of such pain lingered until I found myself within the expression of my emotions through my photography. After finding myself I found the guy I am currently with. Being stood up in California by one potential partner I randomly meet another. He changed what I thought was true about being loved by someone else. Throughout the months of knowing this man, I realized that I can be loved again, and I could love. I could finally be free with someone who was just like me in so many ways. A gypsy, wondering this earth, looking for inner meaning, self peace, and the truth of this universe. I knew it was possible for my heart to beat once more for not just me, but someone else. That was a gift I was given in that moment of time, the gift of knowing I can be loved, and what a wonderful gift it is to find. 

Now I don't know if I will be with this guy till the end of time, because well, time is mysterious and anything at any given moment can be taken from us. However, what I learned from this is that we all deal with this feeling at some point. We ask ourselves, "What is wrong with me, why can't I find anyone to love me?" The answer is so utterly simple that we don't accept it. See, we are all capable of love and being loved. Nothing is wrong with any of you, the problem is you first have got to accept that you can and deserve to be loved, you first must find it within yourself. We are all beautiful people caught up in a dark cruel world. The only way out is to accept the beauty of knowing love is out there, and accept that it will break you at times, but it is worth so much more knowing that each break brings beauty, only if you choose to see the beauty in it. 

So do I believe in true love? Well, I believe I have suffered great pain because of great love, and if I can love before I can love again and there is nothing truer than that, believe it or not. 

Photography provided by Malissa Ahlin Photography of Southern Colorado 

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